Unfolding the Best Version of Yourself

In my 40s and 50s, I experienced a profound sense of transformation. It is a time of self-discovery and growth, whether we choose to embrace it or not. Eric Erickson, a renowned psychologist whom I studied at length in my professional journey, referred to this stage as “Generativity vs. Stagnation,” highlighting the importance of finding purpose and contributing to society.

As I navigate through this seventh stage of life, I have to admit I give a bit of an eye roll as my age group gradually descends to the bottom of the list. However, instead of dwelling on the passing years, I choose to fully embrace each one. With every year that goes by, I embrace the person I am confidently, knowing this is who I am meant to be.

I share countless stories of my journey to self-discovery in my 20s and 30s in my book “God Made Me Sassy” as I searched for my true identity. It wasn’t until I anchored myself into the role of a mother to my beautiful daughter that I began to find a sense of purpose. As the approach to my 40th birthday drew near, I welcomed it with excitement and enthusiasm. I recall Oprah herself promising that this would be the best decade yet. Perhaps she said that because she had not yet reached 50 herself.

Eric Erickson’s “Generativity vs. Stagnation” is the seventh stage of his psychosocial development theory. The stage begins at 40 and continues through 65, during which individuals focus on contributing to future generations and society. Generativity involves nurturing, mentoring, and making meaningful contributions. Stagnation refers to a lack of growth and fulfillment. Balancing generativity and avoiding stagnation is crucial for a fulfilling life.

Life in transition can be both exhilarating and challenging. As we enter this new phase of life, we often find ourselves navigating a multitude of changes and adjustments.

One of the most significant transitions is the shift in priorities. Particularly after 50 many of us start to reevaluate what truly matters to us. We may find ourselves focusing more on personal fulfillment, pursuing long-held passions, and cherishing meaningful relationships. This transition allows us to prioritize our own happiness and well-being, embracing new opportunities and experiences.

Another aspect of life in transition after 50 is the changing dynamics of work and career. Some of us may choose to continue working, exploring new avenues, or starting a second or even third career. Others may opt for a more flexible schedule or retirement, allowing us to pursue other interests and spend more time with loved ones. This shift in our professional lives offers a chance to redefine success and find fulfillment in different ways.

Life in transition is a time of growth, self-discovery, and adaptation. It presents us with the opportunity to redefine our priorities, explore new possibilities, and embrace the changes that come with age. While the journey may have its challenges, it is also a time of great potential and fulfillment. So, let’s embark on this new chapter with open hearts and minds, ready to embrace all that life has to offer.

Truthfully, I have found joy and challenges in every decade of my life. Now, as I knock on the door of 55, I am filled with anticipation and excitement for what lies ahead. Each passing year brings me closer to that milestone of 60, and I welcome it with open arms. Today, I am truly free from the constraints and falsehoods of my past. I am comfortable in my own skin, embracing my true self, and living the life I was created to live.